Using children

Making him feel guilty about the children

Using the children to relay messages

Using contact visits to harass him

Threatening to take the children away

Threatening to deny contact with the children

Alienating children from him by using criticism, blame and false allegations

Acting as 'gate keeper' to the children often with the sanction of the family courts

Using female privilege

Using sex as a reward or as a sanction

Behaving like a princess and treating him like a slave

Making all the big decisions sometimes by deploying coercion and guilt

Acting like the 'mistress of the castle'

Being the one to define men's and women's roles

Using the family courts to harass him